The Joy of Reading Books

I don't know how to start this article but I would like to believe that writing this article will help me realize the essential benefits of reading books or any kind of reading materials for that matter.

Actually for the last 8 years I am not into reading books anymore due to the advent of social medias but somehow I realized that these damn social medias are not beneficial especially if you glued yourself to these platforms for an hours or so. It's just totally draining.

And so I gradually start back my habit of reading books when I went to the states last holiday. Well,  actually the books there are very cheap as cheaper as 5 us dollar and voila!  you can get a quality hardbound or paperback types.

Well, to cut the story short; what I've found out recently about reading books is that it develops a sense of mental comprehension or focus either in your work or talking with friends. Second, I am always transported into a different horizon or should I say a different ideal world that sometimes you don't realize that time is running high. And Lastly,  It gives me the pleasure of imbibing the main character of the book especially if I love the character and dreaming someday to be one ha ha ha How I wish! And that's explain why there's plenty of joy in reading.

But mind you, if I compare reading and shopping, for me there are no comparisons of the two; I rather have both of them as my two favorite hobbies;)he he he.

Why I Love John Green

As per wikipedia John Michael Green is an American author of young adult fiction, YouTube video blogger, historian and creator of online educational videos. Well, I just knew him as a young smart author and now I know that he has multitude of talents so to speak. And as per his biography online he was  born in 1977 and I was in 80's ha ha ha ha so we are of the same generation indeed.

Well , anyway this is just my opinion but whether you like it or not dear readers, I really love John Green. Why oh why? and here's my compelling reasons:

1. Because he revolutionized the method or genre of teen adult books about realistic fiction, experience and the way he writes is so straight forward not so teeny weenie kind of thing. It makes young readers today to be realistic, to be smart and be responsible enough inspite of inexperience in life.

2. All of his books are so light and very relatable that's why I like him a lot.

3. I know I am into late 30's but I don't want to read books now that are so comprehensible that I need to look for a dictionary for every word. This is my past time after a day's hard work so I need to be transported into a different world when I am reading.

4. He write all the books by heart because as what he said in daily telegraph interview, he cried on all his books he wrote.

5. But what makes John Green’s books wonderful books to me is the fact that I think about them, about the decisions and revelations and lines. Sometimes, I forget the name of the characters, sometimes, I forget the details of the stories, but I have yet to forget the ideas and the meaning and the feelings that I felt when I read his books.

6. Also, there is a lot of food for thought, a great narrator, and the usual, great writing that is John Green.

Well, FYI's He is the hottest YA author of today. He is the author of the book that became famous Movie; The Fault in Our Stars then the award winning Looking for Alaska, Paper Towns and the Abundance of Katherine. And I am really looking forward to read more of John Green's YA Novels.

Selfish Me

Selfish - Liar. Egocentric. Hypocrite. Greedy. Useless. Worthless. Sociopath.

It is also means in adjective - (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.

Categorically, I really don't know if I am a selfish prick . But maybe I am because I always look for what is best on me. I don't know why I am so late realizing these things when I am now into my 30's but still it is never too late to change or show some unselfishness to people.

Anyhow, Below are some little tips I got from wiki how on  how to be unselfish or practice a little more of this and a more less of selfishness:

·         Changing who you are will take time, but recognizing that you have a problem with your behavior is a big step.

·         Hug others that need it. Don't hold back tears or emotions because of your ego.

·         Learn to stop judging others and instead try learning to understand them.

·         Encourage people because everyone needs encouragement.

·         Don't hate yourself because you think you can't change. You'll get there.

·         Don't expect to become a saint overnight.

·         Use less words like "me" or "I".

·         If there is only one cookie left at a party and somebody else wants it, let them have it or offer to split it with them.

·         Don't rub your good deeds in other people's faces. The point of volunteering and being considerate is doing the     right thing, not getting glory.

·         Don't be sharp with people just because you are stressed.

The Beauty of Moving On

Honestly,  In all my life  I have not been into serious relationships. Its
all pure fun and carnal to me. But recently, I did try dating just to see if I can be of prospect or a catch to anyone ha ha ha.

Well, to cut the story short, I went dating for six months with a younger guy, a 10 year gap of my age. During that six months, I thought I can get him right away because he is young and fresh and of course aggressive (for sure you know what I am talking of). Then later, it was a different kind of emotion.  A bit deeper, sincere and fluid.

Well in all honesty,  yeah I fall for him. I loved him but the thing is I am not emotionally matured. I am a bit of both being  impulsive and drama queen. That is something that I need to work out if I want to have a long lasting relationship with someone. So in short, this guy is in a relationship now . What is sad here is I found it myself but yeah the guy- it is not his job to notify me that he has a boyfriend or something because reality we are just dating. He can even meet and date ten folds of guys. That's the thing.

So what I am trying to tell here is that, Don't be so dramatic just moved on. But in my case although I have lots of lapses, I was really into him thinking I still have the chance. And now the picture is clear enough to me now, it was just pure dating and getting to know each other and it did not work, period.

So the beauty of moving on is that, you value yourself now more than anything else because you get it already and its sinks in now in to your brain and in to your heart. Meaning you embrace now the reality, so what you just have to do is to wish them great, good luck and happiness. There are still billions of billions of billions of people in this world and the probability is that you can have the chance to get someone much better and much you deserved. Life doesn't stop there it's just give you a break to think and assess yourself and then go find someone again but with lessons to learn.

How to overcome Impulsiveness

To start this article, I need to know or research the meaning of being Impulsive,  Impulsiveness or  Impulsivity, etc.

Well, according to American Dictionary of the English Language, Webster; it is an emotion that  is "a moving of the mind or soul; hence, any agitation of mind or excitement of sensibility". Another definition is an emotion in which it is "a conscious mental reaction (as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling…typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body" . And according to urban dictionary - Prone to acting without thought; spontaneous.

So in other words, It is our feelings that rise up, move out and we want to follow them and do whatever they say. And That is my problem now of being impulsive . Anyway,  According to an article online, Here are some tips on how to overcome that impulsiveness: 

• Walk away from something you want to buy on impulse. It will still be waiting for you later, after you’ve had time to think over the purchase.

• Take a deep breath or talk with a thoughtful friend before impulsively yelling at someone out of anger.

• Practice calming strategies, such as muscle relaxation, yoga and cardiovascular exercise such as jogging.

• Write a list of pros and cons of a tough decision before acting.

• Make a mental outline of what you want to say before saying it.

• Do some research on a purchase, decision or a proposal before you act on it.

• Be mindful.

• Engage in calming activities.

• You can stop impulsivity from controlling your actions and your life.

But in a more deeper sense, I believe that surrendering yourself to God and Be aware of your actions that you will never ever hurt some ones feelings or emotions is another essential thing to do or in short Self-Control. Thus I quote Joyce Meyer article " God always has your best interest at heart. That's why He wants to change you more than He does your circumstances. Then, when those inevitable emotions rise up, you can make choices on purpose, not impulsively. Choose to go deeper with Him so you can live beyond your emotions and enjoy the freedom it brings in your life - Amen"!